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Today we're learning about bullying, exclusion, and social boxes. The beauty of social boxes is that they can expand and morph to fit anyone or thing you want. We wish we had one of those last time we moved...that life-sized sculpture of Channing Tatum was tough to pack.
Transcript
- 00:04
[Coop and Dino singing]
- 00:13
Friendship is all sunshine and rainbows and puppies, right? Like a big group of smiling [Friends sitting in front of a rainbow]
- 00:17
people holding hands and spinning around in a circle?
- 00:20
No? Guess not. Actually, sometimes interactions with friends can end up being mean, hurtful, [Pie hits man in face]
- 00:24
or even violent.
Full Transcript
- 00:26
Okay, that got really dark, really quick.
- 00:28
If you think about your own friends, you probably have a lot of things in common.
- 00:31
Maybe you all like to play Xbox… [Friends playing Xbox]
- 00:33
…or you have a bunch of inside jokes…
- 00:35
…or you hate sports…especially sports that involve balls of any kind. [Tennis ball hits woman in the face]
- 00:38
Which is, uh…really limiting yourself, we might add.
- 00:41
Whatever the specifics, your group might have a certain "box" into which you all fit comfortably.
- 00:46
Which isn’t necessarily a bad thing…but it can cause problems.
- 00:50
The attributes and characteristics that help make you and your friends, well… friends… [Football players inside a box]
- 00:54
might push you to exclude people who don't quite share the exact same traits…people
- 00:58
who don't quite fit into your "box."
- 01:01
And sometimes the decisions about who fits in your friend box won't even come from you,
- 01:05
but from some of your friends. Which means our decisions about friendship are coming [Friend whispers in girls ear and new girl walks away]
- 01:09
from other people or, worse… from fear.
- 01:12
And that’s when excluding can get mean, or hurtful, or even violent. [Man punches football player in the face]
- 01:17
Which is…not good. Especially when there are no paramedics nearby.
- 01:20
When it gets to this point, we're talking about social violence: using a group of individuals [Dino discussing social violence]
- 01:24
to hurt or harm others by means of exclusion, bullying, or manipulation.
- 01:29
Yeah…bullying can be a form of in-school violence, [Kids bullying a boy on the bus]
- 01:32
and it doesn’t even have to involve punching.
- 01:34
When certain people or cliques make it hard or impossible for others to learn and grow
- 01:38
at school, they're engaging in bullying behaviors. Bullies use force or manipulation to get people
- 01:44
to do what they want. They often threaten, use put-downs, or exclude others to create fear. [Coop explains bully tactics]
- 01:49
And, sadly, we don’t all have patronuses we can conjure to take care of that little issue.
- 01:54
If you experience bullying, there's no need to lose hope. You should always try talking first.
- 01:59
Talk to the bully – or bullies – and tell them to stop…let them know how their [Bully holding boy's glasses]
- 02:03
behavior makes you feel.
- 02:04
That might sound a bit touchy-feely, but it’s important. It seriously might make a difference.
- 02:08
Sometimes bullies – especially groups of bullies – don't realize how cruel they're
- 02:12
being. Remember, they're people, too, and most people…even the kind of people who [Locker door swings open and man appears]
- 02:16
tend to lock other people inside hall lockers… don’t enjoy making others feel bad.
- 02:21
If the bullying continues, talk to a trusted adult to get the bully to stop, and to help
- 02:24
sort things out between the two of you. Believe it or not, adults can be sort of helpful sometimes. [Two boys in a meeting at the counselor's office]
- 02:30
Friendship doesn't have to end with social violence, and the more aware you are of when
- 02:34
you're excluding people, the less likely it'll be to happen.
- 02:36
Okay, are we back to fun, happy rainbow time now? Yes! Rainbow time! [People celebrating with a rainbow]
- 02:40
Whew, that feels much better.
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